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Below is an archive of the first few years:

November 25, 2008
▶ Family, Faith … and Fat?
Frustrated American dieters seek spiritual support.

November 11, 2008
▶ Sex, Dating & Catholicism
Honest answers for young adults’ frank questions.

October 27, 2008
▶ Understanding Natural Family Planning
Why religious and non-religious couples are using NFP.

October 13, 2008
▶ Prayer in Pen
Why writing in my journal keeps me between the lines.

September 21, 2008
▶ Wedding Bell Blues
Juggling a lot of weddings? Here’s how to stay perky.

September 8, 2008
▶ Dealing with a Loved One Who’s Depressed
More on depression and relationships.

August 4, 2008
▶ Depression Hurts
A letter from a reader raises questions about relationships and depression.

July 22, 2008
▶ Recessions & Relationships<
Navigating your relationship during a recession In the last year, I’ve gotten married and moved to Iowa–and I’ve become a lot more aware of the fine line most American families walk to stay in the black, why the price of gas matters and how difficult it is to talk about finances, even in an otherwise strong relationship.

July 7, 2008
▶ Declare Your Financial Independence
This weekend, we celebrated our nation’s independence with fireworks and cook-outs. But according to a recent Busted Halo survey, young adults are struggling for an even more personal kind of independence this summer — financial independence.

June 23, 2008
▶ After the Flood
In this column, I write a lot about dating and marriage relationships–but there’s another equally important type of relationship that gets a lot less publicity: community relationships and the power of neighbors and friends to lend a helping hand in times of trouble.

June 10, 2008
▶ Wives, Obey Your Husbands?
As someone who studies the family and relationships, I usually look forward to the discussion of these big, important issues in the liturgy. At one church I attended during childhood summers, fathers would be recognized on Father’s Day by standing up and receiving applause. At another church, I remember mothers receiving a special blessing on Mother’s Day. And on the feast of the Holy Family, usually the Sunday after Christmas, the readings always caught my attention.

May 27, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Are You Financially Unfaithful in Your Relationship/Marriage?
When you think of money, what words pop into your mind? Power? Freedom? Security? Debt? Money isn’t something we usually talk about-not even (and sometimes especially not) with our spouses or significant others. But if money is power then it can play an important — and often corrosive — role in our relationships.

May 5, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Men DO Want to Marry Their Mothers
If the old saying is true that men want to marry a woman like their mother, then this Mother’s Day, let’s thank moms for leading the way toward gender equality for a younger generation.

April 14, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Stop Looking for Your Soul Mate!
“He should be your husband, not your everything.”

March 31, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Blind Date!
It only has to work once. That’s what I told myself after every bad date in my 20s.

March 17, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Is Lying a Way of Life for Women?
For three months I lied to my husband. I snuck around behind his back and I emailed and talked on the phone with first one — then up to a dozen — different men. I had more than 200 emails secreted away in a folder. When my husband would come into the room, I’d snap my computer shut, or click on a different screen quickly, so he wouldn’t see what I was doing. By the end, nearly every other sentence I uttered was a lie. And even though I was so nervous and jittery, my husband didn’t suspect a thing.

March 3, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Box, Wine and Love Letter
In the living room of my next-door neighbors’ house is a wooden crate. It’s nothing fancy, just pieces of plywood nailed together, but Kim and Matt keep the box in a place of honor by the fireplace as a constant reminder of their commitment to each other.

February 18, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Generational Differences
Do you believe that your spouse should be your soul mate first and foremost? Do you agree that marriage should be whatever two people want it to be? Do you believe that living together decreases the chances of divorce? Depending on your age, you’ll probably have very different answers to these questions.

February 4, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Men, women and sports
But the SuperBowl is just one night celebrating one sport. How do you feel about the intersection between your team spirit and your relationships during the regular season?

January 21, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: Third Wheel
Anita, 26, had two close friends in college. These were the girls she could always call for a chat, who would be interested in planning a fun trip, going shopping, or confiding secrets. But a few years after college, both women got married–and Anita felt left out in the cold.

January 7, 2008
Pure Sex, Pure Love: A New Approach to New Year’s Resolutions
Did you make some New Year’s resolutions this year? If so, you’re in the minority: A 2005 study found that only 45% of Americans make New Year’s resolutions.

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